We met way back in 2006, when Nicole started going to the church where Barry worked (and still works!). Both of our lives were in flux at the time. Barry was going through a divorce and was a single dad to two very young boys, and Nicole was dealing with some hard family issues. We did a lot of church work together, both with music and youth programs, and our friendship grew. When Nicole’s first husband died unexpectedly in 2015, Barry was one of the few people Nicole could manage to be around, other than close family.
A few years later, we slowly began to date. Our friendship was incredibly important to both of us, and we didn’t want to lose that close bond if a romantic relationship didn’t work out for some reason. It wasn’t long after we started dating that we knew we would end up together, and we were married in 2018. Our marriage is very happy and very stable. We respect and love each other and are true partners. It’s very different than what we both experienced in our first marriages, and we don’t take that or each other for granted.
Nicole has always wanted to be a mother, but her first husband was not interested in raising children. While Nicole tried to distract herself by being the best aunt she could to her nieces and nephew and by working with children and youth through church, the desire for children of her own was still there. We were very excited when we found out that we were expecting a baby a few years after we married, but it wasn’t meant to be. However, that pregnancy loss put us on the path that led us toward adoption. We are sad that we will never get to know that baby but take comfort in the knowledge that God has a plan for our family.
Barry is a music teacher and a church musician. He has made a lasting impact on many of his students; some of whom have gone on to also teach music. The students at his current school say they can always count on him for dad jokes, and some of them have said that they didn’t know what a dad was supposed to be like until they met him. He creates a supportive, encouraging atmosphere for his students, and, really, with anyone he comes in contact with. Once we adopt, Barry plans to retire from teaching and stay at home.
Nicole has done many different jobs in her career, but the common thread through all of them has been writing. At her current job, she works in Human Resources operations. It’s not traditional HR work; she spends her time working with several teams to help them figure out how to do things better and communicate those changes to all of the company’s employees. It requires a lot of writing, people skills, and organization, which is where Nicole is happiest.
We adopted our dog, Beau, from a rescue in 2020. He is an important part of our family and brings us so much joy. Beau is a big boy with a very sweet personality. Every person he meets is his new best friend! Beau’s favorite things include trips to doggy daycare, long walks, new toys, naps, snacks, and snuggles on the couch.
We share a lot of common interests. Our faith and our families are very important to us, we love to cook and eat good food, we are both musicians, we love to travel, and we also love our down time. We enjoy each other’s company and laugh a lot! Some of our best times are spent doing day-to-day chores. As long as we’re together, we’re happy!