PREGNANT?
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IF YOU’RE LOOKING TO PUT YOUR BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, WE’RE HERE TO HELP YOU.

Expectant Mother Information Form

Expectant Mother Information Form
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Expectant Mother Information Form
THIS IS YOUR DECISION – NO ONE CAN OR SHOULD MAKE THIS DECISION FOR YOU. YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR BABY. WE ARE SIMPLY HERE TO GIVE YOU THE RESOURCES AND SUPPORT NEEDED SHOULD YOU CHOOSE TO MAKE AN ADOPTION PLAN THROUGH EVERLASTING ADOPTIONS. ALL OF OUR SERVICES TO YOU ARE FREE AND CONFIDENTIAL.
WE UNDERSTAND THIS CAN BE A DIFFICULT TIME FOR YOU. YOU ARE VERY BRAVE AND SELFLESS FOR THINKING ABOUT ADOPTION FOR YOUR CHILD. WE REALIZE THAT IT IS NORMAL FOR YOU TO DOUBT AND TO WONDER IF YOU ARE MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE. EVERYONE HAS DOUBTS WHEN THEY MAKE IMPORTANT DECISIONS. DECIDING BETWEEN PARENTING AND ADOPTION (AND FOR SOME ABORTION) IS A VERY BIG DECISION, EACH WITH A VERY DIFFERENT OUTCOME.
IF YOU MAKE THE CHOICE TO ALLOW US TO HELP YOU MAKE AN ADOPTION PLAN, WE WILL COME ALONGSIDE OF YOU AND HELP YOU EVERY STEP OF THE WAY.
HAVE QUESTIONS ABOUT WHAT IT MIGHT LOOK LIKE? TAKE A LOOK BELOW AT SOME OF OUR MOST ASKED QUESTIONS, BUT YOU ARE ALWAYS WELCOME TO CALL US AT 630-364-8361. WE WILL ANSWER YOUR CALL 24 HOURS A DAY, 7 DAYS A WEEK.

THE ADOPTION PROCESS

STEP
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Contact Us. Whether you are ready to place your baby for adoption or just want more information, the first step is to contact us. It doesn’t matter what month of your pregnancy you are in. Everlasting Adoptions is here for you, and we are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to help guide you. You can text or call us toll-free 1-630-364-8361, anytime, or request an information packet at the top of this page.
STEP
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Create Your Adoption Plan. We will work with you to create an adoption plan that reflects your wants and needs. We can help you get prenatal care if you are not already, and we can help you apply for state aid, medicaid or public aid. You decide how much, if any, contact you want with the adoptive parents during your pregnancy, at the time of birth and after the birth. This can include texting, emailing, phone calls, visits, pictures, letter updates, facetime/videos or no contact at all. You and the adoptive parents will come to an agreement.
STEP
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Select Adoptive Parents. You can select a family from our group of waiting family profiles, or we can help you find a family whose desires are in line with your adoption plan. If you choose to communicate with the adoptive family, we will tell them all about you. If you both are in agreement to start learning about each other, we will put you in contact with one another.
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Meeting Other Professionals to Help. If you desire, we will set you up with a local social worker and attorney at no cost to you. This meeting is an opportunity for you to tell them how you want your adoption to go, and also for them to explain to you how the process will work. All of us will be sure your questions are answered and that you are still feeling comfortable with your plan.
STEP
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Decide Ahead – For Events at Birth. We offer as much support as possible before and after the delivery of the baby. Usually, the baby will go directly home from the hospital with the adoptive family, but you can decide if you will want to see the baby, hold the baby, or even spend a little time with the baby before your discharge from the hospital. Shortly after the baby is placed with the adoptive family, you will sign legal documents consenting to the adoption.
STEP
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Support After Adoption. Every expectant mother’s post-placement situation is unique. The level of contact you’ll have with the adoptive family and the baby depend on your adoption plan and wishes of the adoptive family. If you are interested, we will give you the resources to find support going forward. We will always be here, as well, to help and guide you through all of the different emotions you may be experiencing. We are only a text or phone call away.

TYPES OF ADOPTION

OPEN ADOPTION

In an open adoption, the expectant family and the adoptive parents often stay in direct contact with one another after placement. This can include phone calls, texts, emails and face-to-face visits. The level of openness is agreed upon between the expectant family and the adoptive parents as you get to know one another and develop a relationship.

SEMI-OPEN ADOPTION

In a semi-open adoption, the adoptive parents send the expectant family regular updates and pictures by texts, emails, phone calls, Facetime/Zoom, or any form of modern technology. It does not involve face-to-face visits. Sometimes the adoptive parents and expectant family will choose to have a third party serve as the source of contact. The frequency of updates and how they will be communicated is agreed upon by the expectant family and the adoptive parents.

CLOSED ADOPTION

If the expectant family decides they do not want to have any contact with the adoptive family after the birth of the baby, this is called a closed adoption. In this case, you can still have us help you with the selection of the adoptive parents.
QUESTIONS YOU MAY HAVE ABOUT ADOPTION
I AM THINKING ABOUT ADOPTION. CAN YOU HELP ME WITH MY DECISION?

Yes. We can answer your questions. You do not have to choose adoption just because you ask questions. We can answer your questions, listen to you, and help you with what you need.

Everlasting Adoptions can provide you with the information you will need. We give you choices and your options & families to choose from. We trust you will make the best decision for you and your baby. We will give you adoptions options, but the choice is yours.

HOW DO I KNOW THE COUPLE I CHOOSE WILL PROVIDE A GOOD HOME FOR MY FAMILY?

Everlasting Adoptions only works with licensed adoptive parents. This means that all of our families have been through what is called a “home study process.” This is where they are given physicals, background information is collected &, their home is visited and their fingerprints even have to clear FBI for criminal background checks. They are also required to attend seminars to better understand the adoption process and how to raise a child that feels so special that they were adopted.

CAN I CHOOSE THE FAMILY THAT ADOPTS MY BABY?

Yes, you can choose. You can look at couples “profiles”. These are booklets that give you a glimpse into their lives. They are filled with photos and a letter for you to read. You can talk to them and meet with them if you wish. We can help you figure out what you might be looking for in a couple, and possible questions to ask.

WILL I HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH THE COUPLE I CHOOSE?

Yes, if this is what you want. If you do not want contact, we respect your decision. You can talk with them and meet with them. You choose the type of adoption you are comfortable with. Most expectant mothers choose to receive letters and pictures from the couple.

WILL THIS ADOPTION COST ME ANYTHING?

There is no charge to you being a expectant mother. Adoptive parents are able to pay for legal fees and in most states can help with reasonable pregnancy-related expenses & medical bills that are not covered by insurance or public aid.

WHAT IF I LIVE IN ANOTHER STATE?

Everlasting Adoptions works with expectant parents and adoptive parents throughout the United States.

WHY CHOOSE ADOPTION?

Women choose adoption for many different reasons. Listen to your heart in doing what will be best for your child. Only you can decide. You may be financially unable to support a child or if you are already raising children, unable to support another child. You may be at a place in your life where you are not emotionally ready to care for a new baby. We understand the difficult choices you have to make and are here to support you.

HOW CAN I BE CERTAIN THAT THE FAMILY I SELECT FOR MY CHILD IS A GOOD FAMILY AND WILL PROVIDE A SAFE HOME FOR HIM OR HER?

All of our families must be HOME STUDY APPROVED or in other words, become licensed to adopt. Extensive background checks are run on all of our adoptive families to make sure that they will provide a safe, stable and loving home for your baby. A licensed social worker will visit them in their home, run criminal and child abuse record checks on them, collect reference letters from their family and friends, and encourage them to complete educational courses about adoption and parenting. They will also have to prove financial stability and have a complete medical physical from their doctor. You can also get to know the family by asking questions about their lifestyle, values, morals and plans for raising your child.

You can get to know the family by emailing back and forth a few times at first. We feel this makes it a little easier and less awkward. We know that BOTH of you will be very nervous; this is NATURAL. You can then talk to them on the telephone by exchanging cell phone numbers, and then eventually, if you feel the desire to, you can actually meet them in person before actually delivering the baby at the hospital. If the adoptive parents are in another state, they can fly out to meet you at your convenience. Most of the time, you will email and talk on the phone before delivery, and they will actually meet you for the first time, at the hospital when you are about to deliver.

CAN I CHOOSE TO HAVE AN OPEN OR CLOSED ADOPTION WITH THE FAMILY?

Your adoption plan is completely up to you. You can design an adoption plan that is most comfortable for you. Everlasting Adoptions provides you with a wide selection of loving families waiting to adopt. You can choose to meet the adoptive family and receive pictures and letters, or you may choose to have no contact with the family. Remember, there are many types of adoptions. You are able to hand select all of the options that fit your needs. We will guide you through every step of the way. We are all adoptive moms that work here, and we still talk to our own children’s expectant mothers today!

CAN MY PARENTS STOP ME FROM CHOOSING ADOPTION FOR MY BABY?

Adoption is your choice. This is your baby and you are the only one who will know if you can raise this baby. Your parents cannot stop you legally from creating an adoption plan.

IS THIS SAFE AND LEGAL?

Yes, adoption is safe and legal. The process is simple and confidential. All adoption laws are adhered to allowing you peace of mind that your adoption is safe, legal and ethical. All legal work is conducted by a qualified social worker. Everlasting Adoptions has completed many successful adoptions and is a member in good standing with the Better Business Bureau. We are also listed with the California Department of Social Services (CDSS). We also have parents and expectant mothers that have used our services in the past. We encourage you to ask us for their contact info so you can personally talk to them yourself!

WHAT IF I GO INTO LABOR? CAN YOU WORK WITH ME FROM THE HOSPITAL?

Yes, we often receive calls from the hospital. We can have a family available for you within hours. The adoptive family will be able to take the baby home from the hospital, avoiding foster care. We have found that most expectant mothers want to be sure that their baby can start bonding with their adoptive family right away. We are open for emergencies, on all weekends, holidays and through the night. We have families that can travel within a few hours nationwide.

WHAT IS MY NEXT STEP?

For more information, please fill out our Expectant parent Info Request Form at the top of this page OR give us a call at 630-364-8361.

QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR POTENTIAL ADOPTIVE FAMILY
ADOPTION vs. ABORTION

WILL HAVING AN ABORTION BE LESS EMOTIONAL THAN ADOPTION? CAN I MOVE ON AND NOT HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT?

Over 70% of the women who have abortions agree that abortion involves a baby and experience negative feelings about the abortion. (C. Reardon, www.afterabortion.org) One woman describes her feelings after an abortion, saying, “I hated myself. I felt abandoned and lost. There was no one’s shoulder to cry on and I wanted to cry… and I felt guilty about killing something. I couldn’t get it out of my head that I had just killed my baby” (Options Magazine, 2003).

"ABORTION IS THE CHEAPEST WAY FOR ME TO TAKE CARE OF MY UNPLANNED PREGNANCY."

Abortion can cost anywhere from $500 to $2,000. These costs are not covered by insurance. In some instances, women have complications resulting in medical expenses and time missed from work, which can make abortion even more expensive. There are state assistance and community programs available to assist with a small amount of the cost of parenting. A woman who chooses adoption has no expenses and may receive pregnancy related living expenses to help with the costs of the pregnancy and time off work.

"ABORTION IS THE ONLY OPTION THAT ALLOWS ME TO GO ON WITH MY LIFE AND LIVE OUT MY DREAMS."

While abortion allows a woman a choice to continue with her dreams and not have to delay plans for the future to raise her child, it is not the only option. Adoption allows women to continue with school and other dreams as well. A woman who chooses adoption may also go on living her own life knowing she put her child’s needs above her own and that her child is being loved and cared for by a wonderful family.

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN ADOPTION & ABORTION

WAITING FAMILIES