If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy, it may be difficult to share the news with your family and friends. It may also be difficult to tell them you’re considering placing your baby for adoption. Your loved ones will undoubtedly have their concerns and opinions. They may want to persuade you to make a different choice. On the other hand, you may be pleasantly surprised by their love and support.
Talking to your loved ones about your decision is important. They can be your support system – but only if you talk to them about your situation, options and decision. Here are some things to keep in mind to make the conversation just a little bit easier.
Timing
There is no “best” time to tell your loved ones you are pregnant. It all depends on what you feel is right, your unique situation and how you feel the most comfortable. For some, bringing it up spontaneously is the best option. For others, planning a set time can be helpful. Whatever you decide – make sure to allow ample time for a hearty discussion. It is best to tell your family as soon as you are 100% sure of your pregnancy. That way you can receive the assistance you need for making medical appointments and receiving emotional support.
Be Honest
You’ve heard the saying “honesty is the best policy.” The same applies to speaking with your family about adoption. Not only do you need to be honest with them, but they need to be honest with you. Honesty will help them understand your reasoning for considering adoption and allow you to understand their reaction (good or bad). Keeping the line of communication open between both sides is important. Your family can only become your support system after you’ve opened up about your feelings towards the situation.
Have Trust
Once you have opened up to your family and friends about your pregnancy and option of adoption, you have placed a level of trust in them. More important than trusting your loved ones, it is time to trust yourself. Trust that you will make the decision that is best for you. Trust that you will become educated on your options. Trust that you will seek help, support and guidance whenever it is needed. You can do this – but you are not alone.
Listen & Have an Open Mind
A conversation is a two-way street. Say your part but also listen. You may be set in your decision (whatever it may be) but that doesn’t mean your loved ones should not be heard. Pregnancy and adoption are serious circumstances. You have questions. Your family has questions. Together, you can weigh the pros and cons of each scenario and come to a decision that is truly best for you and your baby.
Not everyone has the support of family and friends when facing an unplanned pregnancy or placing a baby for adoption. Should you be one of the lucky ones who does – take advantage of it. Embrace your loved ones. Their love and support is more valuable than ever.
At the end of the day the choosing adoption is your choice and yours alone. If additional guidance is needed, Everlasting Adoptions is always here to offer a helping hand. Call us 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.