For some of us, Mother’s Day is a day of celebration and recognition for the mothers in our lives. For others, Mother’s Day is a painful reminder of what is missing. You wouldn’t be here if you weren’t longing for that special child who will one day make you a mother.
As an adoptive mother myself, who experienced many years of infertility and waiting, I vividly remember the dread I felt as Mother’s Day approached. As the years passed waiting for a child of my own, it became more and more difficult to put on a happy face and “celebrate” Mother’s Day with friends and family. I resented my friends who became mothers so easily, but also felt guilty for the resentment and anger I felt. After all, it wasn’t their fault I wasn’t a mother, but wanted to be one so deeply it hurt.
Fast forward to when I adopted my son and my first Mother’s Day as a mother. I was flooded with bittersweet emotions; happy beyond words because my dreams had finally come true, but also keenly aware of the sadness and yearning I had felt not that long ago.
Unfortunately, there is nothing I or anyone else can say that will take the sting out of this day. I want you to remember that these feelings won’t last forever and I want you to take comfort in knowing you aren’t alone. The baby who will finally make you a mother is out there! We work day and night to try and find that baby for each and every one of you.
Don’t forget that I UNDERSTAND what you are going through and I am here to help you through this. I am only a text, email or phone call away.
With Love,
Carol