We met through Lindsey’s friend marrying Stephen’s brother, but remained just friends for over two years. And then...we both apparently started to actually notice each other, but were unsure of the other’s feelings. Lindsey realized she was unhappy in her current relationship and broke it off an hour before Stephen called saying he knew she was dating someone already, but hoped if she didn’t “like that guy all that much, maybe you’d go out with me.” That’s Stephen: tenacious, hopeful, polite. Lindsey told him, “You’re in luck. I just became single an hour ago!”
We went on our first date three days later, got engaged three months later, and married 7 months after that in 2009. Stephen is an automotive technician, and Lindsey worked as a grade-school teacher until Jacob arrived. Now she is a grateful stay-at-home mom who volunteers since the pandemic as a part-time tutor to students in need of academic help. We are both Minnesotan born and bred, come from large, supportive families, were homeschooled for portions of our youth (which sure came in handy in 2020!), are both practicing Catholics and both enjoy nature and outdoor activities. While we have many differences as well, we’ve found many of these dissimilarities complement each other. After years of trying to conceive, we realized God was calling us to a different path to becoming parents.
Our oldest child Jacob was born in 2015. We first met him when he was 5 hours old, and fell in love instantly. We met his birth mom twice before he was born, including the ultrasound when we all found out he was a boy together! Jacob has been a very happy, physically healthy little boy who enjoys swimming in our pool, swinging and sliding on the playset, jumping on our trampoline, and sledding down our hill in winter. He loves books, watching cartoons, playing with his cousins, and doing classwork with Lindsey and sports activities like basketball, T-ball, and football with Stephen. He sometimes struggles with communicating because of his autism, and with focusing on tasks because of his ADHD, but this doesn’t affect his normally cheerful disposition.
In 2018, we found out about Emilia’s sudden need for a family when she was 2 days old, left that very day and drove 10 hours overnight to meet with the social worker and attorneys, and were fortunate to be able to meet her birth parents before leaving to go home. Emilia is an energetic, curious little girl who loves playing with Jacob, swimming, lift-the-flap books, and testing her boundaries. We send pictures and updates to both the kids’ birth families, and sometimes they update us on their lives too! We are glad they will have easy access to their birth families and history and hope our new child will have a similar experience.
We try to instill values of faith, family, and treating others as you want to be treated. They pray every night for the “new baby”. Jacob has voted for baby brother, and Emilia says a sister, so either way works!