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Another Birthmother Shares Her Story

I am so thankful to Everlasting Adoptions and, Ceal, my adoption counselor. I would definitely recommend Everlasting to other birthmothers! I felt supported the entire time.

Most importantly, I am so grateful to the adoptive parents for making the toughest decision I ever had to make, so much easier and comforting. I truly feel blessed to have found such a wonderful family to raise such a handsome little boy. I am honored to say that the morals and values that I would want instilled in him will be carried out and fulfilled by this beautiful family. I am so proud to have given you the greatest gift of all, and I am so proud that when I saw both of you, and hugged both of you, it was then that I felt like Josiah would get nothing but love and the best possible life.

Thank you so much Abbott and Amelia. I know both of you will be really great parents. I truly feel like he will have all the love that he will ever need and deserve. I feel like these wonderful adoptive parents were my angels in disguise, and I will forever have nothing but love and respect for them.

Love, – T –

Birthmother Destinee Shares Her Adoption Story

Thank you, Destinee, for sharing your experience with the Everlasting Adoptions community!

“I would say that choosing adoption as an option was a wonderful experience. Everyone at Everlasting Adoptions was very helpful and kind. The services offered were very supportive to me. The couple that adopted my baby are awesome, caring and fun people. I am so happy I chose them. The process was very easy, and I would recommend Everlasting Adoptions to anyone thinking about adoption.”

Thank You, Birthmother Lila, for Sharing Your Story with Us!

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We are so thankful for all of our wonderful birthmothers here at Everlasting Adoptions. One of our birthmothers, Lila, was kind enough to share her experience with the Everlasting community. Thank you, Lila, for opening up to us. We respect your strength!

“I have always wanted to give someone the gift of life, but never knew if I could actually go through with it. I have 3 children already, and I unexpectedly got pregnant again.

When I found out, there was no emotional attachment between myself and the baby, and I didn’t feel like she was mine, unlike my other children. So, I knew she was “sent for someone else.” I began the search, and, at first, I went through a different agency before I found Everlasting Adoptions. I went through over 100 profiles of families who wanted another child or even just one child. None of them were “good enough” for this precious gift of life; none of them called out my attention.

I was talking to my cousin (who had also felt the same way about her last child), and told her that I was starting to give up. She told me about Everlasting Adoptions, so I contacted them. I got my first package of profiles. I went through the first package and saw one couple that caught my attention. But, I set it aside and then asked for more profiles.

Ceal, my adoption counselor at Everlasting Adoptions, sent me at least 4 packages of profiles, and by the time I was done reviewing them, I had gone through 40 profiles.

Then, shockingly, out of the blue, I realized the same couple I had set aside from the first packet, was also included in another packet that came to me. I only wanted to look at families that had no children, so Ceal sent them to me again since they had no children. I saw this is a “sign” to me, and then, when I reviewed their profile again, I had a strong feeling that THEY WERE MEANT TO BE THE ONES! It was then, that I quickly sent a text to Ceal and found out they had just been through a bad situation with another birthmother. Ceal asked them if they were ready to try again. They said YES! Ceal gave them my number and we started talking. I sent pictures of my baby bump and, of course, my ultrasound pictures. They loved her instantly, but were still a little hesitant thinking this might turn out to be another bad situation for them. But, we still continued to keep in touch with one another and develop a relationship.

When the due date came closer, and I only had one week to go, they came to my town to meet me. It was great. We hung out and got to know each other better. Meeting each other in person was the best thing we could have ever done! Surprisingly, my due date came and went, so my doctor scheduled a non-stress test and an ultrasound. Megan, the adoptive mom, got to go with me to my ultrasound and non-stress test and feel baby Allyson for the first time. She looked terrified, but yet so excited. The honest look on her face gave me the confidence I needed to proceed with the adoption. Since I was not going into labor as soon as everyone thought I would, the day came that Kenton, the adoptive father, was notified he had to leave to go back to work in a few days. He was getting sad because he wanted to see his baby girl sooner than later. But, night time came, and I started having contractions. So, I went to the hospital, and they said I wasn’t having enough contractions in one hour to indicate that I was actually in labor, so I went home. Two hours later, I was back in the hospital! The contractions got worse, and they admitted me into the hospital at 10pm. I called Megan and Kenton and said it was time. They came in the room and hung out for awhile until the contractions were too much for me to bare. It was almost time!! They both went out in the waiting room. Then, I sent my Mom out to get Megan. She was so nervous and didn’t know how to help, but I wanted her to see the baby being born. I didn’t have her until 2:16am, with Megan in the room, cheering me on. She, for the first time, got to see and feel the love and pain that brings life into the world first hand. A beautiful miracle was brought into the world just for them.

After the doctor took her and cleaned her up, she screamed, and Kenton was right outside the door instantly. Megan was crying with tears of joy, knowing I had just given the gift of life to them. Kenton saw the baby and held her for the first time. He, too, teared up; she was his miracle!!!

They let me see her and hold her. I even got to teach them a few things—“tricks of the trade” so to speak. They are great people and definitely the BEST parents for Allyson. To me, they are amazing! Honestly, I couldn’t find two people like this in over a million people! They deserved to have her. We took pictures and said our goodbyes after those two days we all spent together in the hospital.

After I left, I kinda felt like something was missing and sad, but I knew she “wasn’t” mine after the second day of being home. I broke down and cried, not for her, but for me. She was given the best parents any child could ask for, and I was able to do that for her. After that day, I now “BRAG” about how great Everlasting Adoptions was in helping me find those perfect parents. I know there will be those women out there reading this thinking it’s not possible, but it most definitely is. Choosing adoption for Allyson was worth every last minute for me. I get to see pictures all the time, and I get constant updates even more than I have asked for. For other women out there considering adoption for their baby, please give Everlasting Adoptions a fighting chance to give you those “PERFECT PARENTS!”

Thank you Ceal and Everlasting Adoptions for giving me, My perfect Parents!”

Sincerely,

Lila Thank You, Birthmother Lila, for Sharing Your Story with Us!

A Birthmother Shares Her Story

It’s stories like this that remind us how beautiful adoption truly is. Lindi, a birthmother, wanted to share her experience with other women considering adoption. Read her short story about her adoption journey and working with Everlasting Adoptions throughout her pregnancy.

“My adoption experience with Everlasting Adoptions was humbly beautiful. I met two wonderful people to care for and love my baby, Mila Gabrielle, as much as I possibly could. It was a comfortable experience even though it was such a sensitive and touchy choice for me to make. I love, love Everlasting Adoptions for helping me through the pregnancy. I would highly recommend Everlasting Adoptions to other women that are considering adoption. The process was so simple, and, Ceal, my adoption counselor, truly did make everything easier for me.

Thank you for everything!!!!”

Lindi

Please refer to the Birthmother section of our website to learn more about placing a baby for adoption or to request more information.

Note from One of Our Everlasting Birthmothers

To All Those Considering Adoption (Especially Birthmothers)

I came across Everlasting Adoptions when I found out I was pregnant with my third child. I knew in my heart it was the best thing I could do for him. Working with Carol was the best thing in the world. She is so easy to talk to and will talk to you anytime at all…day, night, weekends, when she is/was busy. The place and people are great and I would suggest them to anyone who is even thinking about Adoption. I have personal experience with Adoption and am willing to talk to anyone who is also thinking about it just so they can get an idea of what I went through.

Please feel free to email me at: mykidsjeffnlilly@hotmail.com

Special Message from One of Our Birthmothers

By Amanda on Tuesday, August 10, 2010 at 11:49am

I knew I loved my son from the first moment I found out he was growing inside me. Although I knew I was too naive, young and poor to raise him myself, there was never a question he would be brought into this world. I loved his father even though I know we would never see each other again, therefore, the only sensible choice was an open adoption. I loved my son too much to hand him over to people that I had never met.  My feeling was and always will be that if I was too scared to look these people in the face, to know, love and bond with them, then how in the world could I, in good conscious, hand my son over to them, to know I would never see my son again?

I know without a second of guilt or remorse that I made the right choice in open adoption.  How can there be a negative side?  I know my son will not only have one set of family members who love him, but 2, 3, 4…. How can it bad to have more people love you rather than less?  Now, when each of us wake up each day to face a new part of our lives, there are no hauntings, unanswered questions to get in the way of our feeling secure who we are so that we may face the rest of our challenges with that knowledge on our side.  Now, I feel like I have a second family too, not just my daughter and my husband, but my son and the family chosen to raise him.

An Everlasting Birthmother’s Story

“The adoption process has been quite the journey. Looking at my baby girl and handing her to the parents who are to raise her should had been the hardest thing I ever had to do- and trust me it was, but it was so comfortable- I was so confidant in them and the life that my baby would have with them and especially in the relationship that I would continue to have with my daughter and her new parents- that even if I could not raise her, that she’d be given all of the resources to know me and that we could know one another from afar. Her new parents have exactly the outlook on adoption that I need and I couldn’t thank Carol and Everlasting Adoptions enough for facilitating the process. Carol really reached out to me and helped me to understand what I was looking for in a life for my daughter- without her guidance and support there’s no telling where we’d be today. Our lives are forever changed and I am forever grateful.”

All my best, Nicole

A Thank You From Birthmother, Ren

Hey Carol! It’s been almost a year since I used Everlasting Adoptions to find the perfect family for the baby I was having. He will be one year old on July 31 and not once have I regretted the decision I made. Thank you so much for helping me find the perfect family! Your help will not be forgotten by me or his adoptive parents!

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